Small talk is an integral part of everyday communication, especially in casual, non-intimate settings. While generally considered insubstantial, it’s the type of exchange that helps break the ice, bridging awkward silences that come during uncomfortable moments.
Many ESL speakers, especially those on the early stages of their English learning software, understandably feel self-conscious about small talk. Despite the relaxed nature of such interaction, their personal struggles with the language can prove a hindrance that sees them go through the process with much anxiety.
When mustering the “power” to hold your own during small talk, here are a few things to remember:
- Be interested in the basics about them. Who? What? When? Where? Why? Those are the bare basics you’d like to ask your acquaintance. Those are also the likely the same things they will be asking you about, so try practicing your answers in English.
- Learn some conversation starters. Pick up one of those basic social skills book in the library and memorize a few of the conversation starters. When nothing else comes to mind, you can whip them up and, hopefully, get the ball rolling.
- Practice every chance you get. If you’re in an English speaking country, you can practice small talk wherever you come upon people – while riding the bus, waiting for the train or in line at the grocery. Try it – it’s more rewarding than you’d ever expect.